Thursday, July 17, 2008

Permission Granted! -Women Writing for a Change Up North Retreat










(From top: Lovely flowers on retreat grounds, retreat location entrance, charming Shea!, the ceremonial lighting of the circle candle, retreat leader Anni with Sister Barbara, who each graciously made sure our needs were met while at the center, & presenting our terrific group of talented women writers!).


I’m currently in a state of major life transition, committed to broadening my experiences, knowledge, creativity, and feeding my spiritual self. While special needs will always hold a special place/priority in my professional and personal heart (and on this blog), I’m also now boldly venturing into brand new creative territory while further exploring some old loves (like photography) that got set aside during the years I raised my son and daughter and prioritized special needs—those years when I hardly had time to breathe.

Permission granted.

In that spirit of self care and exploration, I attended last weekend’s Women Writing for a Change Up North (WWFAC) retreat in Petoskey, Michigan, also known as God's Country. Along with five other talented women hungry for creative sustenance, I out ran daily demands, personal demons and exhaustion to gather in supportive community.

Using the sacred gift of words, we rediscovered ourselves.

Anni, Jodi, Christina, Bronwyn, Shea and I quickly built a nurturing community of expression, fueled by each other’s acceptance, love, heart and generous words about the value of our individual works. I’ve gathered with writers before; this was different. These women weren’t here looking for kudos or agents or ego gratification or to compete on some imagined writer’s stage. They came to reclaim the artist self so often lost or suffocated amid daily demands and life trauma. We needed time alone and time in supportive community and each bravely claimed that time.

We came for the quiet necessary to hear ourselves think, and embraced sitting still.

For two nights and two days, we shared simple lodging and meals seasoned with emotional stories of self esteem and weight issues, battles with addictions and health, and the unthinkable experiences of the death of loved ones, and rape. The work of these brave women was some of the finest I’ve been privileged to share. Each brought something different to the creative table.

Pieces of cloth and patterns that at first introduction seemed odd fitting, made a stunning human quilt when joined together. We dug deep, shared openly and used powerful imagery and turns of phrasing that took my breath away. I was stunned by the beauty, intelligence, insight and wisdom of the women’s words.

I even escaped briefly Saturday afternoon for a photographer’s outing that left me giddy, and with some great new photos, some of which I am sharing with you on this blog. Check out my next two blog entries for more photos from this inspiring outing and samples of the women's writing.

I left the retreat refreshed, energized, validated, and reminded of how much I love being a creative soul—and I got five terrific new writer friends to boot. Well worth the price of admission.

Time away is priceless and restorative. Try to claim it for yourself, no matter how brief the escape.

For more information about WWFAC, visit: http://www.womenwritingupnorth.com/


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Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Granddoggies Go Swimming....



Sir Griff and Madame Zelda agree that the only place to be during the sultry, sweaty dog days of July is in the cool water! (or in AC!). Afterall, a dog can't just herd critters or fetch Frisbees all day long...

Don't you feel cooler just looking at them??

Me? I'm already dreamin of fall, and new boots...

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Catch It! -My 'Live! with Lisa Radio' Interview with Tim Shriver of Special Olympics




If you want to catch my interview on Live! with Lisa Radio at Yale with Tim Shriver, it's reairing as part of their best of shows on Friday, July 25th from 10 a.m. to noonWYBC-AM1340, http://www.wybc.com . (Top photo: me with super producer, Gabby Durk; Middle photo- me in studio, and on the left- me with Lisa Wexler, terrific show host and the Lisa in Live! With Lisa!).

You say you just can't wait?
:) Then check out the link now and listen. It's a two-hour program with various guests. Tim Shriver comes in at about 10:20 or so and I come in after that for most of the rest of the time. Sorry I don't have the edited down version yet, but it's all worth listening to.

...and don't forget to watch for another season of the Real Housewives of NYC on Bravo! Lisa's sister, Jill Zarin, is one of the cool housewives. I admit that it's one of my guilty pleasures.

Enjoy!

http://livewithlisaradio.com/index.cfm?page=guest_det&id=131&firstname=Judy%20&lastname=Winter

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Check it Out! Michigan's Grand Hotel Makes Travel & Leisure Cover!

The July cover of Travel & Leisure magazine highlights "50 Fabulous U.S. Travel Ideas," and features the Grand Hotel from one of my fav places in the world, Mackinac Island.

The down side to their fab choice is that now even more people will know about this jewel of an escape to another time..... but that's good news for the struggling economy.

BTW: that's my photo of the Grand Hotel above.

You can check out this gem of an island at mackinacisland.org (pronounced MackinaW)

It's all grand...

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Take Note: A New Special Needs Casting Alert!

My friend Gail is looking to help cast a child with cerebral palsy, a wheelchair user. You must live in Southern California.

Here's her request. Good luck!

"I am assisting a casting director looking to cast a Caucasian girl age 7 to 13 who has Cerebral Palsy (with wheelchair) or has any other disability that causes her to use a wheelchair; also a Southern California local, with good enough verbal skills for a speaking role on this commercial spot.

For consideration, please forward photo, name, age and contact information to me (Gail Williamson) by Monday, July 21, 2008 at gail@dsala.org and put “casting cp” in the subject line.

Please forward and post this email where ever you feel there might be someone to fit this “breakdown.”

Thank you for all submissions and you will only be contacted if the casting director would like to schedule you for an audition.

If there is a child with any disability that does not fit this ‘breakdown” but would like opportunities to audition for other productions, go to the Down Syndrome Association of Los Angeles website www.dsala.org and click in the upper right on Heart & Halo Talent to register. If you fit this breakdown and would like future opportunities, besides just this one, you can also register at H&H Talent as well."

Gail WilliamsonExecutive DirectorDown Syndrome Association of Los Angeles, Inc.315 Arden Avenue, Suite 25 Glendale, CA 91203818-242-7871 voice818-242-7819 faxgail@dsala.orgwww.dsala.org

Thursday, July 03, 2008

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY 2008!

Grand Hotel
Mackinac Island, Michigan

We live in the greatest country in the world, where it's easy to take individual freedoms for granted. How will you honor your remarkable freedom and independence in 2008?

Whatever you choose, do it justice.

..but please be careful with all those noisy and unpredictable fireworks, especially around children and pets.


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Monday, June 30, 2008

Win a Free Trip to the 2008 Maui Writers Conference!



Want to attend the 2008 Maui Writers Conference on someone else's dime?

Check out www.mauiwriters.com for details.

It's a great event, no matter who pays for it! This year, the conference is going on the road to Honolulu.

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Friday, June 27, 2008

Minute Vacations-July 2008

Judy's Minute Vacation for July 2008
Summer Sunset at the Magnificent Mackinac Bridge
Mackinaw City, Michigan

Aren't you awed by nature's amazing beauty and magic?


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I'm a Big Fan of...! July 2008

Here's my July 2008 Gush:

I'M A BIG FAN OF...READING BOOKS!!

There's little I love as much as a great book with enough free moments to savor it from cover to cover.

Unfortunately, my current choice was so good that I finished in less than day! The Road Back to Yourself: The Second Journey by Joan Anderson is the latest in a series of her books about women facing transition, especially those in mid life and women coming of age.

Love this author, but she can't write fast enough to keep up with my demand for her insights!

Up next: I'm going to reread one of my Julia Cameron favs: Some Say that God is No Laughing Matter: An Artist's Observations and Objections on the Spiritual Path.

No matter how often I read this author, I always come away with inspiration, renewed energy and redirection.

Read On!


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DID YOU KNOW? July 2008

DID YOU KNOW?

...that children with intellectual disabilities (formerly known as mental retardation), are bullied four times as often as other kids in school? That's inexcusable!

Talk with your child about bullying, and if it's a reality for them, take action to stop it now. If necessary, be your child's voice. All kids deserve a safe environment in which to learn and grow.

Source: A terrific new publication entitled: Picture This: Intellectual Disabilities produced by the Entertainment Industries Council, Inc., www.eiconline.org, in partnership with Special Olympics, www.specialolympics.org.



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Judy Winter's FAV Quote of the Month- July 2008




"An invasion of armies can be resisted.
But not an idea whose time has come."
-Victor Hugo





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Sunday, June 15, 2008

Presenting Faces of Ability at RicStar's Camp 2008!











There are times when a picture is indeed worth a thousand words. In this case, I present you with fourteen-thousand words that help capture the magic of the 6th Annual Eric 'RicStar' Winter Music Therapy Camp held last weekend at MSU's Community Music School, including one of a tiny and very cute certified camp therapy dog. What a remarkable weekend it was! It's amazing what happens when people focus on individual abilities... For more about RicStar's Camp, visit http://www.judywinter.com/ or http://www.cms.msu.edu/.

Also, here's a link to a good camp article in MSU's newspaper, The State News:http://www.statenews.com/index.php/article/2008/06/music_mends_disability_rift__

Enjoy!

...and Happy Father's Day to all those terrific dads out there!!

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Tuesday, June 10, 2008

RicStar's Camp Rocks!




For a number of reasons, I'm running way behind on my blogging efforts. I still have lots of good things to share/comment on from several recent events. But those ramblings will have to wait another week or two.

Right now, I need to talk about the pet project near and dear to my heart!

This week is all about my son's terrific camp: the 6th Annual MSU Eric 'RicStar' Winter Music Therapy Camp, of which I am co founder and co chair (copyrighted camp photos above by Eric's big sister, Jenna Winter). Part of the Community Music School, the outreach arm of the MSU College of Music, this amazing camp honors my son's terrific musical legacy, and his life, in the best way possible- by opening its doors and welcoming nearly 100 individuals of all ages with a wide range of special needs and immersing them in music.

Music meant everything to Eric, so this effort has proved a great way to honor his memory, while giving individuals with special needs a rare opportunity to experience firsthand the power of the arts and music therapy, something of which I am a huge fan (you can read my past post on music therapy on this blog). Research supports the power of music therapy to create positive changes in the lives of those with special needs.

RicStar's Camp is a fun-filled, three days of music making and movement, where the focus is on individual ability. Everyone is equal once they walk through our doors. Camp is already full again this year, but if you'd like to know more, visit my website: http://www.judywinter.com/ and click on RicStar's Camp, where you can also view the camp dvd.

Perhaps, you'll be inspired to begin a camp in your own hometown!

If you want to attend RicStar's Camp in 2009, I strongly suggest you sign up early!!! Scholarships are available to those showing need. We work very hard all year long to make sure that attending camp is possible for all. If you'd like to know more about supporting our scholarship efforts or volunteering visit: http://www.cms.msu..org/.

More about this year's wonderful event after the fact...

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Michigan Go Run! 2008 calls Women to Take their Rightful Places in Office

Two weekends ago, I faced a tough decision— see the much-anticipated Sex and the City movie and discover if Carrie and Big tied the knot, or become part of the first Michigan Go Run Political Leadership Training 2008, to which I’d already been accepted. I hoped to become more politically savvy in my work as author, national speaker and advocate on special needs issues.

Many families are unaware of how policy/funding issues impact their children. Parents have little time to tackle system-wide advocacy while addressing tremendous daily demands. I have time, passion and skills to advocate for them, so I put on cute-but-comfortable shoes, passed up popcorn and Manolo Blaniks, and joined 124 other women for training.

Michigan Go Run’s! slogan is Go Run. Go Lead. Go Girl! It’s an effort of The White House Project, a non-partisan, non-profit organization based in New York City that trains, supports and empowers women of diverse means to run for office. “When you ADD WOMEN, you change everything,” the website proclaims. Accomplished founder and President, Marie Wilson, was on-site overseeing her charges. The author’s credentials include co-creator of national ‘Take Our Daughters to Work Day’.

Most attending were well informed, championing causes as diverse as our backgrounds. Several are running for office this year; others plan to join them soon. Key training included media, fundraising, and campaigns. At times, the experience was a bit like a church revival, an intoxicating blend of too little sleep, too much caffeine and high energy from a unified force serving notice. If we bottled the energy, passion, and vision of those present, I think we might fuel our cars and turn our state around.

Highlights included:

Public servants were panelists/speakers, including State Representatives Joan Bauer, Barb Byrum, and others who openly shared rewards/challenges of political life, term limits, and the working to resolve the state’s budget crisis.

The number of women of color in attendance was impressive, their vocal commitment to change, contagious.

I was deeply moved by a young college student who told of growing up in a tough Chicago’s South Side neighborhood, where she learned early that education was her ticket out. She’s now passionate about impacting change that helps ensure equal access and affordable education and heath care for inner-city youth.

Several twenty something women expressed frustration over negative perceptions of their generation, fueled in part by overtly sexualized, narcissistic media messages, including by MTV. These women want more. Audrey works for the Grand Rapids Obama campaign and plans to run for office.

Melannie, a spirited young Michiganian employed by Sotheby’s in NYC, volunteers for the Younger Women’s Task Force (YWTF.org) a grassroots movement that organizes young women to tackle issues. Once the job market improves, Melannie may return to Michigan and run for office.

This valuable weekend training left me with a shiney new Certificate of Accomplishment, an 'invitation' to run for office, and some great new friends from across the country. It also left me inspired, energized and refocused on my calling as a storyteller/advocate who through journalistic/speaking skills creates needed awareness, while challenging policy makers to implement needed change for social justice.

Recent times have been tough, but if Michigan Go Run! is any indication, our future is in great hands—the hands of Michigan’s remarkable, capable women.

To find out more about The White House Project, visit http://www.thewhitehouseproject.org/


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Thursday, June 05, 2008

Do You Ever Wonder Why...? June 2008

DO YOU EVER WONDER WHY...?

...People who complain the loudest seem to do absolutely nothing to make the world a better place?

Do you ever wonder what worldwide problems we could solve if people took all that negative energy and turned it into positive action that addresses serious issues at hand? Hmmmm...

Just rambling...


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Honoring Robert Kennedy 2008

How can it be that today marks the 40th anniversary of the assassination of Robert Kennedy, a remarkable leader who offered such promise for curing our nation's ills?

Where has that time gone? What exactly do we have to show for it?

In some ways, it's as if time stood still after that fateful day four decades ago when a single horrendous act stalled forward progress on solving the serious challenges facing our country, including those impacting human rights.

When Bobby Kennedy died at age 42, many in this country could barely go through the motions of daily living, driven to their knees by the staggering loss of so many great leaders in short order, including John Kennedy and Martin Luther King. It was a tough reality in our history from which many in this nation have since struggled to fully comprehend and recover.

Forty years of stunned silence and grieving and the resulting lack of political interest has created a country now seriously off course, one desperate for true leadership. The meteoric rise of Barack Obama and this week's historical claim to the Democratic Party's nomination, is especially timely. The inclusion of Caroline Kennedy on Obama's search team is now another boost connecting past and present, a soothing balm for deep wounds from another time that have never fully healed.

Robert Kennedy remains one of my heroes. Working tirelessly to carve his own legacy while standing in the shadow of his larger-than-life brother, John, Bobby Kennedy took on tough issues of civil rights and social injustice. He boldy acted on his outrage and fought for change in ways few ever have. Like Martin Luther King, Kennedy paid the ultimate price, a sign of a true leader, one willing to fight to the death to do what is right and just for the people he/she serves, regardless of personal cost. That kind of leadership is rare.

In today's San Jose Mercury News (Robert Kennedy: A life cut short, a lasting legacy), Jerry Abramson, former leader of Students for Kennedy says of Robert Kennedy, "He challenged our complacency. He was a good listener and never spoke down to people. He was a remarkable leader."

There is now a reawakening, an excitement in the air that hasn't been felt in far too long. Ethel Kennedy says of her husband and Obama, "they were cut from the same cloth. they reached out to people and inspired them."

Robert Kennedy will be forever missed, never forgotten.

Dare we hope for that much again?


For more information on the life/work of Robert F. Kennedy and how you can continue his vision of social justice, visit: the Robert F. Kennedy Memorial website: www.rfkmemorial.org.

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Thursday, May 29, 2008

I'm a Big Fan of...! Griff the Corgi, Cool Shoes & Sex & the City!! June 2008

Here's my June 2008 gush:

I'M A BIG FAN OF...! my grandoggy Griff- the fluffy Corgi, cool shoes, and Sex and the City! So with the eve of the big movie just a day away, here's a photo by my talented photog daughter that honors all three!

It's exhausting trying on Jenna's high heels, huh Griff?

Wearing heels would make you look taller little man, but it would be tough for you to herd critters in them...

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Minute Vacations- June 2008

Judy's Minute Vacation for June 2008
Ponds at Frederick Meijer Gardens
Grand Rapids, Michigan

Don't you just love summer's endless adventures?!

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Judy Winter's FAV Quote of the Month- June 2008

"What we need is more people
who believe in the impossible."
-Theodore Roethke

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The White House Project/Michigan Go Run!

Many people have little clue as to how politicized many of the decisions affecting children with special needs are. Decisions on funding and policy in our communities are often made at the highest levels and filter down into our backyards, impacting our ability to easily navigate systems and help our children realize their full potential.

Without the proper understanding and education about this process, it can be tough for anyone to advocate effectively for lasting, needed change for this deserving population.

That's why I am thrilled to have have been accepted into this weekend's intensive Michigan, Go Run! Political Leadership Training Program. Part of the White House Project, this exciting effort is committed to helping women realize their important, valuable roles in the political arena, giving them the training, tools and support needed to realize their lofty dreams of public service. This weekend's event promises to help me better prepare myself to reach my big goals of impacting policy change on special needs at a high level nationwide and beyond. Running for office? Still undecided.

I have been fortunate to use my skills and passion to accomplish some important work on special needs these past two decades. It's work of which I am proud. I now want and need to learn more to take my advocacy to a new level. Eventually, I hope to become a childcare ambassador who travels internationally to document as a writer/photographer/advocate the stories of children worldwide facing the tremendous, often untold challenges of special needs. I want to realize big change worldwide and bring more attention to the cause on a larger stage, using my journalistic chops and my heart for the subject at hand to drive home important points and impact long-overdue change.

This weekend promises to be the start of an exciting and challenging new journey for me. I believe women hold the power to change the world. Their voices are needed now more than ever before in our history, especially as they impact our nations' most vulnerable citizens, its children. For me, that equation must include special needs awareness.

To find out more about the White House Project, visit: http://www.thewhitehouseproject.org/.

Wish me luck! I'll share more soon.

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DID YOU KNOW? Kitties are Good for Your Heart!


DID YOU KNOW that hugging your furry feline does more than just cover all your fav black clothing in fur? It's also great for your heart!

According to an article in the June issue of SHAPE magazine, it's true! The issue cites a University of Minnesota study that proclaims that owning a cat can reduce your risk of dying from heart attack by up to 40 percent!!!! MEOW!!!

I love cats, always have (and now I love my granddoggies, too!). For the first time in my life, after losing two long-time furry buddies to old age/disease in one year, I'm some how existing without a cat in my life (soon to be rectified), except for my buddy Pirate, the neighborhood cat who regularly stops by for purrs and petting. I've never understood why people are so afraid of black cats. My experiences with them have been nothing but delightful.

Above is a photo of Pirate and our last furry family pet, Chloe, an adorable, sweet ragdoll we rescued from the shelter as a pet for my for my daughter when she was very young. Chloe the cover girl added so much to our lives and we all miss her. The house is strangely quiet without her dignified presence and beautiful face, so I am especially grateful for Pirate's spirited, daily visits (and I don't have to clean a litter box!).

To improve your health, take a daily walk, and cuddle away! But please refrain from dressing up your cats. It may look cute, but I'm pretty sure the resulting stress is not good for their hearts. They are purr-fect just the way they are!


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Cast a Vote for Special Olympics!

Here's a easy way to advocate and help support the great efforts of Special Olympics. This request comes from my friend Kirsten Suto Seckler, Director Global Marketing & Awareness at Special Olympics headquarters in Washington, D.C. Please take a moment and vote! Some days it's pretty darn easy to make a difference!! Thanks, all!

You know I love Special Olympics.....
_________________________________
From Kirsten:

The Red Sox are in the process of voting for Kid Captains - great kids who are doing good. The winning kid gets to visit Fenway Park in Boston later this year, and will have the opportunity to provide input on the charitable endeavors the Red Sox will support through their kids program.

William W. wants the Red Sox to focus on Special Olympics and the lessons kids learn from acceptance and inclusion. William's sister Annie is 15, has Down syndrome and is a Special Olympics athlete.

Please take a moment to vote for William W. in 4 easy steps...
1) Visit:
http://boston.redsox.mlb.com/bos/fan_forum/kn_captain_ballot.jsp
2) Click Vote now
3) Click the box next to William W. (last on the list)
4) Fill in your information.
One of our new goals is to reach out to as many kids as possible and what better way than through the Red Sox. Voting ends on June 22.

Thanks! Kirsten
_________________________________

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Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Dancing and dis-Ability

I'm back! So get ready for a series of new posts/photos in the next couple of days as I share some highlights/photos of my recent travels, other key news and more upcoming adventures. I'm still sorting it all out and how best to share, but I want to get back on track today by sharing this beautiful video on dance and Ability on 'You Tube' sent to me by my good buddy, Jeanie.

So much for the dis in disability... Enjoy! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DArfA2kvP3Y
...and BRAVO!

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Wednesday, May 07, 2008

Happy Mom's Day 2008!


I am about to hit the road and will be spending Mother's Day in NYC. But I couldn't leave without giving an early shout out to all those terrific moms who lovingly take on this challenging and rewarding role each day. The work you do is so incredibly important and valuable; the world would fall apart without you. Too often, this amazing role goes unappreciated and unrecognized and it is at times even harshly judged. I personally think that many mothers of kids with special needs should be nominated for sainthood!

Sunday is your day, moms! Enjoy it, and don't you dare spend it cleaning the house or making PB&J sandwiches!!!

Here's my short, sweet, early Mother's Day Greeting to you all.

Moms are true VIPs! No one has greater impact on a child than you do. Thank you for all you do each day to nuture future generations and world leaders. Like the tulip above, you make the world more beautiful, one child at a time.

Hugs!

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Monday, April 28, 2008

Minute Vacations- May 2008





Judy's Minute Vacation for May 2008
New York City

In honor of the long-anticipated Sex and the City movie opening this month, plus my upcoming travel (and my birthday!), here are a few photos of the Big Apple from one of my recent trips, including one of my favs of a budding fashionista and her stylish mom!  (Carrie would be proud!).

Start spreading the (May) news....

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Do You Ever Wonder Why....? May 2008

DO YOU EVER WONDER WHY?...

So many parents today ramble on incessantly on cell phones while out in public with their children enjoying pizza, visiting the monkeys at the zoo, or shopping for Barbie and Ken at the toy store?

A lot of these conversations don't sound all that critical to me. I know, because unfortunately, I can often hear them. Is such casual chatting or even work talk really more important than those all-too -fleeting moments with our kids? Just what kind of message are we sending our children? Aren't they worth more than a phone call or text message?

How about we just say 'no' to technology for a few minutes each day and instead, really connect with one another face to face?  Just because kids are scarfing down salty french fries and double-pepperoni pizza, doesn't mean they're not hungry for your attention, too.

Just rambling...

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Judy Winter's FAV Quote of the Month- May 2008

"My religion is very simple-
my religion is kindness."
-Dalai Lama

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I'm a Big Fan of...! May 2008

Here's my May 2008 gush...

I'M A BIG FAN OF SPECIAL OLYMPICS!

I love Special Olympics. That's why I profiled the organization and Timothy Shriver in my book. Few have done as much to improve the lives of those with special needs, specifically intellectual disabilities (ID), as has this terrific organization.

While others ignored their lives and their challenges, Eunice Kennedy Shriver took it upon herself to create a new world of experiences for those with ID in her own backyard. The lessons she began have impacted the world is ways too big for simple words. Suffice it to say, that the gentle seeds Shriver planted and nurtured years ago have blossomed beyond imagination worldwide. Thanks to her continuing, dedicated efforts and those of her son, Timothy Shriver and all the families, volunteers and athletes who refuse to let the perceived limitations of others limit them, this outstanding organization has changed millions of lives, and outdated perceptions, worldwide.

Thank you, Special Olympics, for the amazing work you do each day, and for the terrific example. For more information, visit: www.specialolympics.org.

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The Human Side of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

Much has been said and written about the challenges of autism spectrum disorders (ASDs). Much of that discussion has come from professionals, parents and organizations focused on research and cure, especially for autism.

In yesterday's Lansing State Journal (Gannett/lsj.com), writer Betsy Miner offered a rare look at ASD from the perspective of someone living with the diagnosis. Skillfully, and with heart, Miner interwove journalistic facts and focus without getting in the way of sharing one woman's powerful life story.

The resulting feature, 'Solving the mind's puzzle,' is a worthy read. Here's the link: http://www.lansingstatejournal.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=2008804270462


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Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Celebrating Earth Day 2008!


It's Earth Day 2008!

For information on how you can celebrate (and save) our planet, visit: http:/ww2.earthday.net. We all play an important role in healing the earth. I'm going to go hug some trees (among other things).

I love trees...and all nature.

JudyWinter.com
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Thursday, April 17, 2008

TV Alert! CBS Airs Hallmark Hall of Fame's Sweet Nothing in My Ear

CBS will air the Hallmark Hall of Fame program "Sweet Nothing in My Ear" Sunday night at 9 p.m. ET.  The movie addresses the challenges facing parents with strongly differing opinions on how to raise their son after he loses his hearing.  It stars two outstanding actors, Marlee Matlin and Jeff Daniels.  

For more info visit: http://www.cbs.com/specials/sweet_nothing_in_my_ear/about.

It's getting harder for me to keep up on all this media coverage.  That's a good thing.

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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On the Road Again....

After a little breathing room this winter, it's time to again hit the road and spread the special-needs gospel, which means the blogging posts may not be as frequent as they have been lately. Here are a few highlights of some of my Apr/May professional gigs:

Talk/Signing: 'Rolling-Focusing on Ability', Project Advisor/WKAR-TV, East Lansing, MI.  This one is especially dear to me because I once worked at WKAR and had to leave the job I loved to meet my son's needs and ensure his future was brighter. That was tough for me, but a no-choice choice.  My involvement in this event represents a true full-circle moment.  It's a great station with terrific people. I'm proud to be 'back on board' for this one day. / http://wkar.org/more/article/451/rollingevent

Talk/Signing/Author's Reception: New Canaan Library, New Canaan, CT. / http://www.newcanaanlibrary.org/newsletter/authors_stage_schedule.htm

Interview on 'Live with Lisa' Radio Program, Yale University, New Haven, CT (recently featured on Bravo's The Real Housewives of NYC!)/ http://www.livewithlisaradio.com/

Off to NYC-for program/showing/review of the film 'Including Samuel' at the Metropolitan Museum of Art, part of the Sprout Film Festival which highlights developmental disabilities. / http://www.gosprout.org/film/info2.htm

Then home for a couple of days before heading off to one of my fav cities,  Chi-Town!  That trip will include indulging in deep-dish birthday pizza, and doing my best to boost the economy on Michigan Avenue!  If I run into Oprah, I'll say 'hi' for all of us!

I am also pleased to be featured in the April issues of Newsmax magazine ('Who I am Now') and MSU Today magazine, (http://www.msutoday.msu.edu/magazine/08spring.pdf) and recently completed an interview for a Chicago Parent piece on sibs (not yet released).  

Life is hectic, but good!  Hope the same is true for you.

An advocate-author's work is never done...

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Monday, April 14, 2008

Equal Granddoggy Time- Introducing Sir Griff

If you've checked out my blog, you've seen my photo of beautiful shelter Granddoggy Zelda. In the spirit of equal time (and cuteness!), here's my other furry joy, Sir Griff, the adorable, spirited, rescue Granddoggy Corgie, who's always looking for something or someone to herd! Photo courtesy of my talented photog daughter, Jenna, who's a wonderful, responsble pet owner. She makes me proud. They all make me smile.

I know, Griffy! I need to buy you more doggie treats....

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Sunday, April 13, 2008

Simple Advocacy-Day Fourteen

CONGRATULATIONS!  

You've made it through Fourteen Days of Simple Advocacy!
  

Let's count 'em down beginning to end:
-Tell your child that you love him/her, no matter how rough the day, complete with hugs.
-Educate yourself about your child's diagnosis.
-Express gratitude.
-Contact the media.
-Express yourself.
-Sit still.
-Spend one-on-one time with your kids without special needs.
-Learn the law.
-Laugh often.
-Focus on the present.
-Organize your child's records.
-Pay it forward.
-Call a family meeting.

Simple Advocacy-Day 14: (drum role, please!)

Count your blessings. I know, you hear this all the time.  It sounds trite, but it can be remarkably effective.   It's true that you do not need to look very far before you will find someone who has it worse than you do.  As I've traveled the country and spoken to countless families, I've been humbled, amazed, even brought to tears by the tremendous challenges many families lovingly take on daily, including parenting more than one child with significant special needs.  Counting your own blessings has a way of making everything seem just a bit more doable, and worthwhile.  It gets easier with practice.

So before your head hits the pillow this evening, take a moment to reflect upon your day.  Then, in your mind or in a journal, record one thing that your child accomplished today that made you proud, no matter how small it may seem.  Small steps now lead to bigger future gains.

Learning to live with gratitude is a powerful life lesson that can change the quality of your life, and that of your children.  Now, on to facing even bigger advocacy issues...  

Yes, you can!

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Saturday, April 12, 2008

Simple Advocacy-Day Thirteen

Call a family meeting. If you have a terrific extended family unit that supports your challenging parenting situation without being asked, consider yourself blessed. The reality is that many families lack such valuable support. But rather than fret and fume and hope people will step up and offer the support and understanding you need, call a user-friendly family meeting or group dinner and tell them. 

Most people can't read our minds.  Big surprise, huh?

Let everyone know exactly what you need and expect from them, while also hearing and responding calmly to their concerns. Help others better understand your child and his/her needs to help increase comfort levels and promote greater understanding and action.  If you wait for relatives to reach out to you first, you may be sorely disappointed. Just because someone is related by blood, does not guarantee they can or will offer the support you need.  Special needs often makes family dynamics increasingly complex, especially if key relationships are already strained.  But charity does (or should) begin at home.

So speak up and ask for what you need.  You might end up with some great new childcare offers for valuable time away, along with a renewed appreciation for the term 'family'.  That's a win-win for all.

It's amazing what a simple phone call can do....

JudyWinter.com
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Random Rant-April 2008. Coulda? Shoulda? Woulda?

If there's one pesky little thing that drives my writer-speaker self over the edge, especially if I'm under deadline pressure or PMS-ing, it's regular, unacceptable misuse/abuse of simple language, especially by supposedly educated people.

This simple act upsets me almost as much as learning new technology. But not quite. For that, my usually mild-manned self has been known to loudly threaten to heave my computer off the roof of my house, along with a few naughty words.

Think of all the credit the tiny letter A gets that rightfully belongs to the word HAVE. That poor little four-letter word is ignored on a regular basis in daily conversations, the media, and over coffee and cell phone chats by otherwise stellar citizens! Over blueberry scones and foaming lattes, the letter A brazenly steals HAVE's thunder with no apologies for the blatant infractions.

Consider the following evidence of popular, daily language abuse by good folk not intending any harm.

I coulda...  I shoulda...  I woulda....

The word should be HAVE, people!  They should all be HAVE! (and not OF, either).

Could have. Should have. Would have. The rampant abuse is shameful.

This week, I challenge you to pay attention to how many times you, and those around you, are guilty of depriving the word HAVE of its rightful place in our language use (but don't ignore your kids).

I bet you'll lose count.

Now, don't even get me started on pronunciation of the word Of-TEN!!! (equivalent to fingernails on a blackboard!).

I shoulda rambled on about this important subject long ago.

Oops.

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Friday, April 11, 2008

Simple Advocacy-Day Twelve

Pay it forward. Whenever you find information on special needs that you believe could benefit others, pass it on. Networking and sharing valuable resources and updates is a great way for people to be kept aware of important, timely developments that may interest them and impact their children.

In the spirit of practicing what I preach, here's information about tonight's airing of the movie The Memory Keeper's Daughter on Lifetime (check local listings), complete with a review by my friend Gail Williamson, executive director of the Down Syndrome Association of Los Angeles, and mom to Blair, a talented working actor with Down syndrome.

For more about the book itself, here is the author's website: http://www.memorykeepersdaughter.com.

Be sure to give Lifetime your feedback about the movie, but first, consider sharing Gail's thoughts and the author's link!

Thanks, Gail!
_____________________________________________________________

"I enjoyed The Memory Keeper’s Daughter a Lifetime network original film to air on April 12th. Of course you don’t get time to watch the characters develop like you do when you read the book chapter to chapter, but the screenplay does a good job of representing the original story. The film, in my mind, would be rated PG13; there is reference to unfaithful married partners, not blatant and visual, but obvious; so it might not be a family film for your family. I suggest you watch it first and then decide.

Something very important to me is the casting of talent with Down syndrome and the portrayal of those characters. They were “spot on” in the film. The actors with DS did a wonderful job, I was so proud of them all and the casting directors who found them. The filmmakers did a wonderful job of showing the abilities and not focusing on the limitations of individuals with DS. It was a joy to hear all of the actors with DS speak clearly and see them truly act, playing someone other than themselves.

Have a box of tissues ready; you will need them.

On a scale of 1 to 3 chromosomes, I give it a 3."

Gail Williamson
Executive Director / Down Syndrome Association of Los Angeles, Inc.
315 Arden Avenue, Suite 25
Glendale, CA 91304
818-242-7871 voice / 818-242-7819 fax
gail@dsala.org / www.dsala.org
______________________

JudyWinter.com
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Simple Advocacy-Day Eleven

Organize your child's records. Keeping good updates, especially those involving educational and medical records in accessible, colorful folders or on your computer, helps you more easily put your hands on up-to-date information as needed. The goal? Stress reduction.

This simple act can prove especially helpful during unexpected hospitalizations, appointments with specialists who may not know your child, and during all those nerve-wracking school meetings, including IEPs, when stress levels are running high and accurate updates are critical.

This is one of those things in your life you can control.

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Thursday, April 10, 2008

Magical Moments



RAIN

The rain taps gently on the skylight in my office, promising greener grass, budding trees, lush lawns, flirty laced tulips, lilacs and juicy worms aplenty for eager, proud Robins. The familiar seasonal cadence suits my reflective writer's mood well.

Fragrant cup of tea in hand, I forgo tempting e-mail and breathe in nature's annual rite of magic.

For the moment, I am content.

What makes you happy?

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Simple Advocacy-Day Ten

Focus on the present. By addressing your child's most pressing challenges well today, you can help build a more solid foundation for his/her future success. Most parents of kids with special needs quickly learn that it's too overwhelming (even scary) to look too far into the uncertain future, especially when their child has a particularly challenging disability.

Instead of freaking out over future unknowns, save your precious energy and stay on task.

Good rule of thumb? Bite off only what you can chew (take on) today. Facing today's most pressing tasks well, can and does help ensure brighter futures for all involved, while helping parents better meet their child's most immediate needs without burning out.

That's worth today's best effort.

JudyWinter.com
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Wednesday, April 09, 2008

Simple Advocacy-Day Nine

Laugh often! Rent a funny movie, indulge in your favorite television program, tell silly knock-knock jokes with your kids, but take time each day to laugh, even if only at the ridiculousness of your current demands.

At the very least, force a smile. Research shows that laughter is a great stress release that has positive impact on your immune system. and your attitude. Plus, it makes you more fun to be around.

So snort your little heart out. Your body and soul (and your family) will thank you.

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Tuesday, April 08, 2008

Marlee Matlin and DWTS!

After last night, here's my take so far on Marlee Matlin's weekly performances on Dancing with the Stars, a gig she makes look incredibly easy.

In a word, Remarkable!

You go girl!

JudyWinter.com
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Spring Inspiration!


Whenever I write/speak about special needs and the law, however briefly (see last entry), I always feel the need to balance off the discussion with something slightly more enticing, like beautiful flowers!

It's a bit like cleansing the emotional palate after a heavy meal.

Enjoy!

JudyWinter.com
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Monday, April 07, 2008

Simple Advocacy-Day Eight

Learn the law. Get yourself a good resource to have on hand that you can refer to time and again as needed to address a particular challenge facing your child (mine are well dog eared!). You can also access the Internet for lots of free info on this topic. Googling will help you find them fast.

If you want to purchase your own books, here's a great website to get you started. Wrightslaw.com, considered a forerunner in providing accurate, family friendly resources on Special Education Law, (and no, they aren't paying me to say this; but maybe they should!). Start slowly, and refer to your resources as needed, including for timely updates.

It's tough to advocate effectively for your child if you don't have at least a working knowledge of the the laws protecting their rights. But you don't need to become an attorney.

Although, there may well be days when you feel like you do.... 

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Simple Advocacy-Day Seven

Spend one-on-one time with your kids without special needs. Take a few minutes each day to connect with them and find out what's going on in their lives. Such actions can go a long way toward helping these kids better handle their challenging roles. Talk about their day, their hopes and dreams, their homework, and yes, their honest take on the daily challenges faced by their siblings and the family unit.

Ask them how they're doing. Don't censor their words, and don't interrupt. Instead, listen compassionately and without judgement so you can learn how to better meet their needs. Their voices need to be heard.

Never forget that these sibs deserve your best parenting, too.

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Saturday, April 05, 2008

Simple Advocacy-Day Six

Sit still. Put down the cell, get away from the computer, stop talking, forget the laundry, and clear your mind. No doubt you're juggling a million different things with your child's schedule, appointments, meetings, research, and daily challenges. Your body and mind may be in danger of overload.

Stop.

Today, give yourself ten minutes to sit quietly, clear your mind and take care of you. Look out the window and observe the birds or budding trees in your backyard, sit in the warm sun, stretch, pet your cat or dog, slowly sip that cup of coffee, or just observe your breathing. You can even take longer in the bathroom, but close the door. The idea is to get away from your demands for a short while and add some much-needed balance and self care back into your life.

Your brain, and you, will appreciate the time off, however brief. Stop problem solving for a few minutes. The world won't end because you take some time for you, and you will most likely return to your challenges refreshed and better able to cope. It's not selfish. It's necessary to go the parenting distance.

Just be still.

Permission granted!

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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I'm a Big Fan of ...! April 2008

Here's my April 2008 gush...

I'M A BIG FAN OF JULIA CAMERON!

The multi-talented artist is perhaps best known for her bestselling book The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity, but I find inspiration in her many books. A few of my favorites include: Transitions (which speaks especially well to my life right now), The Writing Diet: Write Yourself Right-Size (I love this fresh take on shaping up by healing emotions through words), and Some People Say that God is No Laughing Matter

Did I mention Cameron has a cool sense of humor?

No matter where I am on my life path as a writer or as a woman, Julia Cameron always manages to inspire and motivate me and get me back on the writer's path, while granting me sacred permission to be wherever I am on this challenging life journey (including having writer's bloc). I think she's a writer's best friend, but you don't need to be a creative soul to benefit from her wisdom and words, or the self validation (and hugs!) her pages provide. As long as she's putting thoughts into words, I'll be buying.

I'm a proud (and grateful) Cameron groupie.

Let me know how this remarkably talented woman has impacted your life.

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Simple Advocacy-Day Five

Express yourself! Having a child with special needs usually comes with a wide range of emotions that demand expression. Journaling or talking out your anger, frustration, sadness, fear and, grief (including with a professional if needed) are just two healthy ways to safely release your strongest feelings.

Such honest expression, including through the gift of tears, allows you to better move forward to embrace and love the child you do have. Carrying all that other stuff around robs you of valuable energy you need for the challenging tasks at hand.

Express away, and feel free to blast Madonna on your iPod as you vent.

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Friday, April 04, 2008

Reflecting on the 40th Anniversary of the King Assassination


On this, the 40th anniversary of the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., I invite you to pause and reflect on how Dr. King's work for equality and justice matters to all who value their freedoms, regardless of race. I hope you'll take time to read my past tribute to Dr. King on this blog dated January 20, 2008 entitled Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King Day 2008.

I encourage you to visit the resources listed there to better understand Dr. King's work and legacy, and the value they hold for those who care about social justice today. I honor his life today by recognizing the remarkable and effective advocacy that resulted from King's bold commitment to serving as a relentless and compassionate voice for others. I am also reminded of the high cost of such advocacy. It's a reality I came to better appreciate as I fought for a better life for my son, Eric.

Dr. King's lessons in humanity and humility continue to impact my work on special needs issues today and are worthy of our reflection. We can all make a difference in this world. All you need is a dream. Right, Dr. King?

What's yours?

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Simple Advocacy-Day Four

Contact the Media. Inform print, radio/tv broadcast and other media (by phone, email or letter) that you approve of their coverage of special needs issues. Tell them about your child and why such coverage matters to you.

This is great opportunity to let your voices be heard, and yes, it does matter. The awareness and understanding created by such media efforts is priceless and far reaching. It often impacts your family, too.

Here are just a few examples of television programs currently doing a great job of including special needs: Way to go, ABC!

Dancing with the Stars (ABC)
Extreme Makeover-Home Edition (ABC)
Oprah's Big Give (ABC)
CNN (lots of autism programming, including on Larry King Live!)

You can also respond to local media coverage in your own hometown.

Special Note: Coming Up this month:

PBS-'Rolling,' a documentary about wheelchair users airing nationwide this month. Check local stations for broadcast times. Also, watch for the April airing of the PBS program “Hubert’s World,” which focuses on the triumphs and challenges of a man with cerebral palsy.

The Memory Keeper's Daughterr, based on the bestselling book and airing on Lifetime, Saturday, April 12th. (Down syndrome).

Here's the link to share feedback for that movie: http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/movies/memory-keepers-daughter


Write on!

JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Thursday, April 03, 2008

Jenny McCarthy Drops the BS Word on Larry King Live!

Message boards are buzzin this morning about Jenny McCarthy's appearance on last night's Larry King Live and her sometimes emotional responses that included loudly hurling the the BS word. (I do hope her son wasn't watching).

I've often jokingly(?) warned others that when it comes to moms of kids with special needs, you don't want to unlease the beast within, believe me. There's nuclear power in there.

Here's my take on the whole brouhaha from last night. In the past, I've questioned whether, celebrity aside, Jenny McCarthy is the right spokesperson for autism (think clear understanding and presentation of the facts of the diagnosis and our obsession with celebrity expert culture). I still do. But one thing you can't take away from this gutsy mom, She's got people talking about and paying attention to autism, and she just took off the funny-lady gloves and turned it into a much-needed debate worthy of the seriousness of the topic.

Kids lives are at stake here and the numbers are escalating dramatically each and every day. With her outburst last night, I felt that for the first time, Jenny McCarthy seemed like just another frustrated, loving mom, not a celebrity. She seemed human, while finding out firsthand just how tough it is to impact real special needs change, even if blessed with coveted celebrity status that opens media doors and ensures interviews. The result was valuable coverage for a worthy cause we cannot ignore.

Say what you will about her approach (including questionable language use), but that kind of exposure is priceless. It was World Autism Awareness Day after all, and Jenny certainly got our attention. With that, came valuable attention for children and families who need our support now. She just needs to work a bit more on her advocacy skills and facts (and take some really deep breaths) if she's going to continue to have impact where it counts (think political circles). Many people lack full awareness of how politics (and funding) impacts real change at the highest levels. But I think she (and Jim Carey) are up for the task. So bring on the March on Washington, complete with Carey in costume!

Now, if the media would just expand on this heated discussion and include a wide range of special needs challenges facing millions of other families each day (along with more non-celebrity advocate interviews from those living the realities each day and well versed in the facts), I'd be more content, and less likely to release the beast within me.

Autism is important, and so are the challenges facing millions of children and families with many other disabilities worldwide. So enough with the same old questions and guests each time this valuable air-time is granted, (hear that: Larry and others). Mix up the discussion, the topics, and the guests, please!

Producers: If you're reading this rant, I'd love to chat more, and I promise not to swear.


JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Simple Advocacy-Day Three

Express gratitude. Take time to send a heartfelt note or card of thanks (snail mail, not email) to someone whose efforts have made a difference in your child's life, and your own.

Good karma has a way of returning to you when need it most.


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Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Wednesday, April 02, 2008

Reminder-It's World Autism Awareness Day!

Reminder: Today is World Autism Awareness Day and that means major-media coverage and lots of other buzz on the topic, including on CNN. Check out my entry about this ground-breaking day below. Such coverage and discussion does help bring awareness to the bigger issue of special needs, allowing us to build on obtaining broader, much-needed coverage of a wide range of disabilities.

Imagine what could happen if we all joined forces for the overall cause of special needs? You and I can help make that happen. There is power in numbers, and in our voices, as this day helps prove.

Raise yours.


JudyWinter.com
Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Simple Advocacy-Day Two

Educate yourself about your child's diagnosis so you are better prepared to face/address the challenges it may present you.

You might just help write some brand new statistics.


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Breakthrough Parenting for Children with Special Needs: Raising the Bar of Expectations
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Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Introducing 14 Days of Simple Special Needs Advocacy

When it comes to special needs parenting, one thing quickly becomes clear. If you expect your child to have the best life possible, than you must become their best advocate.

Too often when parents hear the word advocate or advocacy they question their ability to be effective, citing time constraints, lack of knowledge and people skills, no confidence or lack of training and limited finances. They think that to be an effective advocate they must take on a big challenge in the outside world.

The reality is that many parents are just too overwhelmed or too pooped to even consider taking on such a big role. Many are just trying to make it through the next IEP, family gathering, appointment with the specialist or therapists, or survive the bedtime routine. They aren't up for saving the world, just a small piece of it.

So I want to simplify the word for you. Because sometimes, the most effective advocacy for a child with special needs begins with seemingly simple actions taken in the home, actions that go a long way toward improving a child's life, and your own.

I'm talking user-friendly advocacy that anyone can take on, the kind of valuable advocacy that changes lives, too. The kind that can help you take on the bigger stuff.

In the spirit of creating empowered parents who effectively advocate for their kids in the simplest ways each day, I'm introducing 14 Days of Simple Special Needs Advocacy. I hope these helpful, proactive reminders over the next two weeks will prove useful to you and your family throughout the year.

Afterall, April is all about rebirth and remarkable new growth after a long, dark winter...

Let's get started.

SIMPLE ADVOCACY-DAY ONE:

Tell your children that you love them, no matter how rough the da
y, complete with great big hugs. If he/she is touch sensitive, hug more gently and build on the effort each day.

Now that wasn't so hard, was it?


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